Around the Bend: Living in memory

It was 1974 and I was in a downtown Boston ice cream parlour struggling to choose a flavor. To my right, I heard some chuckling. It was a college housemate and he said that the knew it was me because I couldn’t make up my mind. It stung a bit, but given Jon’s jovial, given Jon’s jovial, let’s-not-take-anything-seriously nature, I had to go with his amusement.

That was not a pivotal moment in my life, but it definitely served as a motivator over the years as I evolved. Today I am a sure, even abrupt at times, decision-maker. Twenty years after that incident, I communicated with Jon. He had no recollection of seeing me that day or his comment. He also made sure to declare that he’d become a much more purposeful guy.

What we remember, what we forget. In a reunion with a friend from long ago, he recalled a discussion we had about the value of being connected to a church. I strongly supported that idea; he scoffed. All those years later he, with family, had found church to be a pillar in his life. I had no recollection of my cogent message.

Recently, I was at a gathering where I met up with a guy I had met by a campfire in Nova Scotia in 1976. He was a hockey player on the college team and I, an awestruck, backward sports reporter. Meeting up with him was a vivid experience. He, of course, did not recall it, but was so astonished that he asked me to repeat the story three times! Forty-five years later I felt like a pal.

There is a vast network of people out there who recall things we have said or done. Funny , touching, empathetic, sarcastic, angry things. It can be a bit unsettling. I’ve realized that combined, all those people know more about ourselves, excluding internal dialogues, than we do. The ultimate biography would be a mosaic of all those
memories. What a read that would be! It’s humbling to realize that we may have influenced positively or even disgraced ourselves on this journey and never knew it.

So you may take comfort or discomfort that today someone is remembering you with a rueful pause, a dinner table anecdote, or a smile on the way to work. We are remembered in ways we may never know.

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This week in TV

“Project Runway: All Stars” 

Thursday 9pm, Lifetime

The good news: 13 of the most beloved and/or memorable contestants from “Project Runway” seasons past are back for a second chance. We’re talking Season 1’s Austin Scarlett (now with an unfortunate pornstache), Season 4’s Sweet P, Season 8’s Michael Costello, and Season 5’s Kenley Collins, for my money the most hateful contestant in this show’s history. The bad news: none of the regular “PR” crew is back—no Heidi, no Michael, no Nina. Instead, they’re replaced by new judges Isaac Mizrahi and Georgina Chapman, with model host Angela Lindvall and Marie Claire editor Joanna Coles in the Tim Gunn role. I am perplexed. The potentially worse news is that, according to a story that Gawker ran months ago, an inside source claims that obvious favoritism on the part of the judges ensured that a specific fan-favorite designer ended up winning the whole thing. So this should be interesting…

 

“Absolutely Fabulous” 

Sunday 10pm, BBC America/Logo

I may bitch about networks being out of ideas, bringing back hit shows from the recent past because nothing is working now. But I won’t bitch about this, sweetie darlings! “Absolutely Fabulous,” the gloriously hedonistic British sitcom starring Jennifer Saunders and Joanna Lumley, is celebrating its 20th anniversary (I’ll pause while you gag over your lost youth) with three new specials in 2012. The first airs this week, and involves Saffy returning home from prison, Patsy discovering that she has no actual traceable identity, and Bubble reenacting last summer’s royal wedding.

 

“House of Lies” 

Sunday 10pm, Showtime

Don Cheadle is one of those actors who gets lots of roles and lots of acclaim, but is rarely viewed as a headliner. This new project might change that. In “House of Lies,” Cheadle plays a successful, totally unscrupulous management consultant who lies, cheats, and manipulates his way into mega-dollar deals with wealthy companies. I think we would all enjoy seeing the rich get fleeced for a change. Cheadle is joined by another well-regarded, can’t-quite-break-through star, Kristen Bell (“Veronica Mars,” “Heroes”), plus Ben Shwartz, better known as Jean-Ralphio on “Parks and Recreation.” The concept is interesting and the main cast is great, but I worry that the execution might veer into forced quirkiness, what with cross-dressing plot lines and a pill-popping, sex-obsessed ex who doubles as a business rival. It’s starting to sound a little “Ally McBeal” up in here.

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Review: My Week with Marilyn

Where biography is concerned, movies are eminently unreliable. Portraiture is another matter—more beholden to personal expression than to fact, and maybe also more movie-conducive. My Week with Marilyn is not the place to go for a credible biography of Marilyn Monroe, but didn’t we already know that, and wouldn’t something else be nicer anyway?

The subject of My Week with Marilyn is the star-crossed romance of Marilyn Monroe and a young production assistant played by Eddie
Redmayne, but it’s Michelle Williams’ captivating portrayal of Monroe that carries the film.

Adapted by Adrian Hodges from Colin Clark’s books, TV veteran director Simon Curtis’ film feels slight in a familiar way, as if seeming pitiably shallow were the consensus-mandated Monroe biography boilerplate. The movie lacks plausible narrative tension—its conflict is readymade and perfunctory—but it powers itself by the different kind of tension that arises from watching Michelle Williams sustain so finely detailed an impression for so long. Best to see it as simply a showcase for one more portrait of the alluring screen icon.

The framework: While working for an increasingly exasperated Laurence Olivier (Kenneth Branagh) in 1957, Monroe gets a brief tour of England from an eager young production assistant (Eddie Redmayne) who also happens to be our discreet first-person narrator. He summarizes the situation with Olivier and Monroe as the case of a great actor and a great movie star wanting to osmose each other’s gifts, but struggling together in a film that won’t do that trick for either of them. (It is called The Prince and the Showgirl, after all.) As for our anecdotist’s relationship with Monroe, that one develops expectedly: he’s helplessly smitten, she’s inadvertently a tease. Touchingly, they manage to treat each other with kindness.

If we can agree that celebrity itself is a laudable and costly talent, we must consider Monroe’s career among the first tests of that axiom. The makers of My Week with Marilyn might have been more adventurous, abandoning the pretense of plot for a more interesting take on this idea, but old-fashioned movie storytelling is their given milieu.

Redmayne is a gracious cipher, just as Judi Dench and Emma Watson are generously forgettable in peripheral supporting roles, along with Julia Ormand and Dougray Scott as variously vexed famous spouses Vivien Leigh and Arthur Miller. Branagh, shrewdly aware of the generational baton-passing that keeps movie glamour going, clearly enjoys himself. But as someone in the film says, “When Marilyn gets it right, you just don’t want to look at anyone else,” and all that really matters here is the extent to which Williams gets it right.

Bodily beauty is not the first association we might make with Williams, who has seemed twiggy and swaddled in recent films. Did she steal this job from a curvier actress? In any case, she has earned it: In good time and in good proportion, we glimpse both the effort required to maintain the Marilyn persona and the reasons why a woman—perhaps any woman—might endure such effort. It’s a good performance not just because it transcends mimicry, but also because it seems like a personal and self-justified investigation. Williams conveys the impression that she’s doing this not just for us, or for Monroe, but for herself as well.

Stuff I saw while flying yesterday

It’s a complicated world. That’s what I always feel when flying. Somehow, the eco-details of an airplane flight always feel soaked in irony–maybe because flying itself is pretty deeply unsustainable. Here are some things I saw on a recent flight:

An art exhibition in the Atlanta airport: clothes made from recycled materials

Smoke from burning sugarcane fields rising up, then spreading throughout the atmosphere below the plane

Rather than trash containers, plug-in mini trash compacters in the airport that open their doors automatically when you walk up

A napkin from a flight attendant accompanying a packet of totally non-napkin-worthy cookies

Hundreds of suburban neighborhoods designed with cul-de-sacs, on which houses might be very near (but unconnected to) major roads

My biggest pet peeve in the world: automatic toilets in airport bathrooms, flushing needlessly, again and again

Mountaintop removal sites in West Virginia

Big poultry barns in the Carolinas

Flight attendants promising to recycle newspapers if passengers would hand them over

A dirty look from a Starbucks employee when I asked her to fill my reusable cup