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Dust to dust

The Murray family was looking to take its already eclectic Panorama Farms in a new direction. Best known for hosting the UVA cross country team and national collegiate running events, the Murrays wanted to turn a large swath of their Earlysville land into a green burial cemetery, where bodies can be laid to rest in a biodegradable covering with minimal markings so their remains return harmlessly to the earth.

In talks with the Green Burial Council, the family came in contact with Stephanie Bonney, a career afterlife specialist with a keen interest in natural burial. They hired Bonney as Panorama Natural Burial’s general manager, and launched the service earlier this year.

Bonney recently sat down with 434 to talk about her passion, and the Murrays’ newest venture.

434: How did you become
interested in natural burial?

Stephanie Bonney: I moved here from northern Vermont before Christmas. Up there, I was operating Vermont’s only nonprofit crematorium and a 60-acre traditional cemetery. We would do the occasional green burial, but never by [Green Burial] Council standards. People were starting to ask for it. The reason I was connected with the Murrays is that I had an interest in not only green burial, but also in listening to people about what they were hoping for in planning their own ending.

What do people want for their own ending?

People are realizing they can take charge. Not only is it better for them financially, but it is better for many of them in grieving. When they lose someone, people are looking for something to do. Green burial allows them to be more directly involved in the disposition. In a traditional funeral home setting, they come and pick up the body, prepare it, have a viewing, and the body goes in the ground. In natural burials, some families want to wash the body or even help dig. Many people don’t realize they are able to legally do these things.

What exactly are people allowed to do legally?

When I worked at the crematorium, people might call and say, “my uncle Bob died, and I don’t want to work with a funeral home.” We could help the family do the cremation for less than $500. They would then have to bring the person to us, and legally, they definitely could. But lots of people think it’s illegal; other times, they are uncomfortable with it. Of course, that was cremation, which is not great for the environment.

Which brings you here,
with the Murrays.

Yes, that’s how we were connected. The Murrays had done green burials for their parents and one of their brothers. They saw how meaningful the process could be. That is something that meant a lot to me, and in talking to other people in the area and realizing this is a pretty eco-conscious community, I felt like this would be a good fit. They have this incredible 800-plus acre farm, and the idea was to establish yet another business that can help the community and help the farm be sustainable into the future.

How difficult is it to do green burials from a regulatory perspective?

The state of Virginia is pretty empowering. They allow people to handle the whole process. You can keep the body at home, as long as you keep it cool. You can bathe it, dress it, put it in a casket or shroud it, and bring it in. There is no need for a burial transit permit unless you are going out of state. It’s minimal paperwork. The one thing is the death certificate needs to be on file. That is the one hiccup … it can sit there spinning its wheels for seven to 10 days, which makes it difficult to store a body. But it is doable; there are resources available. Something I have discovered is that many funeral homes are receptive to what we are doing, so they can help keep the body cool.

So the process can be somewhat challenging for families.

If you say, “keep me on ice for 10 days,” and your nephew is taking care of you after death, that probably won’t happen. Decide what you are hoping for and the comfort level of whoever is going to handle it. It is still always a good idea to talk to a funeral home. We are not trying to eliminate them. It’s easier to work together.

Do you see green burial growing
in the years to come?

Green burial is here to stay for sure, and there are more and more cemeteries popping up around the country. It is a more responsible way to take care of the earth—the planet we live on. Once we get going, we are hoping to start hosting low-key community activities like kite flying days or family picnics. Our goal is to be a place for the living, not just the dead.

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The heart of stitching

“I stitch for my family,” says Lauren Ryan, owner of Poppypointe, Charlottesville’s source for all things needlepoint. “A lot of what I do is inspired by them and for them.”

Coming from a long line of skilled craftswomen and embroiderers, Ryan sees needlepoint as a bridge across generations. She learned to stitch at a young age with her mother as her teacher. She and her cousins received handmade stockings from an aunt as children, and those cherished keepsakes still adorn mantels at Christmastime. 

Ryan wanted to carry on the tradition once she became a mother, so she stitched a stocking for her firstborn—one of many creations she would craft over the years. “There’s this connection I have, like many of my customers, to the next generation,” says Ryan. “Making something handmade with love for them is really what it’s about.”

While she has always loved needlepoint, it had mostly been a hobby in the gaps between demanding careers—working on Wall Street through September 11, 2001, and later as a social worker in New York. After relocating to Virginia and raising her daughters in Charlottesville, Ryan decided to transform her pastime into a profession. She opened Poppypointe, an online and brick-and-mortar shop, in December 2019. 

Now a thriving one-stop-shop for needlecrafters of all skill levels, Poppypointe has an abundance of stitching supplies—original canvases, more than 100 different types of thread, all sorts of accessories—and a wealth of inspiration. “I try to create a safe space for people where they can empower themselves to create the work they want to put out into the world,” Ryan says. 

The store also provides finishing services, turning stitched canvases into decorative and functional items—from throw pillows and purses to coasters and trays, to treasure boxes and ornaments. There are even options for needlepointed passport covers and flasks.

Needlepointers needing extra support can book one-on-one lessons; there’s an option for beginners as well as another one for experienced stitchers to hone their craft with embellishments. “We all make mistakes. You adjust and keep going,” Ryan says. “There’s no wrong answer in stitching.”

What’s particularly special about the shop is the fiber arts community Ryan has cultivated. Poppypointe serves as a gathering place, offering weekly open stitch opportunities. These no-cost, drop-in meetings welcome needleworkers to share what they’re working on, learn from one another, and form friendships that extend beyond the shop’s walls. 

“I’m constantly amazed by the creativity and humbled, frankly, by what people can create,” says Ryan. “I feel very lucky and privileged to do what I do.”

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Heads ‘n’ tails

Why is there no fun underwear in the world?

Joan Kovatch and Dylan West were sitting on their couch one day, pondering this, lamenting the lack of undergarments covered in prints of furry, feral creatures (flowers aren’t really their thing). Struck by a burst of spontaneous inspiration, the couple decided to do something about it, and Critter Butts was born. 

“Our original plan was to make patterns for underwear and make our own underwear and then we were like, ‘slow your roll,’” says West. “Maybe start with something that’s manageable, like cards, and learning how to print.

Prior to launching Critter Butts, West had done a bit of linoleum carving, but Kovatch hadn’t, so the pair got to work figuring out how to bring their designs to life. Learning a new art form to open a new business might seem like a risky move, but they were up for the challenge.

“Before this we’ve both been involved in a ton of crafts,” says West. “We’re both neurodivergent and, just, are all over the place all the time.”

The couple are always down to acquire new skills, adds Kovatch. After learning how to make cheese, build houses, tan hides, taxidermy animals, and sew clothes, carving and printing came naturally.

By summer of 2021, West and Kovatch were ready to take Critter Butts to market. They started at Ix’s Thursday Sunset Market, before eventually moving to the Saturday slot.

Today, the Critter Butts booth is full of delightfully queer block-printed artwork on stickers, cards, prints, and shirts—no underwear, yet. 

“Be gay do crimes” features a bushy-tailed squirrel, gearing up to do some damage. On another design, tiny trash cans and the words “live fast eat trash,” written in an old biker-style font, frame a raccoon. All of the designs are hand-carved, and most of the products are hand-printed.

The couple endearingly describe their work as “queer feral trash creature art.” 

“I often think of queer people as similar to possums or raccoons or squirrels—maybe considered beautiful, but often considered fearful, or a nuisance for the unique ways they figure out to survive civilization, and how they inconvenience normal humans,” Kovatch says. “Queer people, though we are socialized into straight society, in some ways have to unlearn all we’re taught in order to survive as our real selves—to learn to trust our instincts and our inherent worth, even if much of society decides to demonize us. So, feral trash creatures.”

Kovatch continues, “it’s important for us to flag our weirdness enough that other weird people who feel isolated feel okay coming up to us. And that’s been a really, really big part of market.”

The Critter Butts booth at Ix has become an unofficial queer social hub. Folks gather underneath the pride and trans flags always hanging from the tent to trade stories, share life updates, and just be together in community. 

They walk away feeling a little less alone, with a card or two, and perhaps one day, a sick new pair of undies.

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It takes two

Words by Caite Hamilton | Photography by Kir Tuben Photography

Karly Bardy  &  AJ Neuharth-Keusch

September 17, 2021, at Keswick Vineyards

When Karly and AJ had to switch from a Washington, D.C., wedding on New Year’s Eve to a fall wedding in Virginia due to COVID, all of the details ended up switching, too.

“Everything was white, green, and gold,” says Karly. “When we had to pivot to a fall wedding, I wanted the complete opposite.” The bride gave creative liberty to her florist, specifying she wanted tons of florals, greenery, and pattern play. Oh, and lots of candles. 

What the couple ended up with was beyond their wildest dreams, and Karly says seeing the reception space after their “I dos” was her favorite moment.

“While everything was planned to a T, somehow seeing it all come together felt like a surprise,” she says. Because they had to cancel their original wedding, “it felt like such a special triumph within those first few wedded moments as husband and wife following the ceremony.”

Photo: Kir Tuben
Photo: Kir Tuben
Photo: Kir Tuben
Photo: Kir Tuben
Photo: Kir Tuben
Photo: Kir Tuben
Photo: Kir Tuben
Photo: Kir Tuben

On the menu

Guests arrived and were greeted with an Aperol Spritz. For dinner, family-style Italian cuisine from Harvest Moon created a convivial feel. Plus, the food continued late into the night, with a wall of Italian desserts. “Lots of carbs!” says the bride.

School rules

Karly and AJ met during their senior year at Radford University and were together eight years before tying the knot.

Signature moves

The bride says she and AJ incorporated lots of personal touches throughout the day to make their wedding feel more like “them,” including having the string quartet play current hits from Taylor Swift and Justin Bieber, using a classic black and white dance floor, and changing outfits (both of them!) toward the end of the evening.

The details

Event planner: Rachel Rice (The One Moment Events) Officiant: Sarah Pete Catering: Harvest Moon Catering Flowers: Bee Inspired Music: Gravatt Productions (ceremony), DJ Dan Huynh (reception) Bride’s attire: Lovely Bride (first dress), Bronx and Banco (second dress) Shoes: Lulu’s Bridesmaids’ dresses: Revelry Rings: Ascot Diamonds, Cartier (bands) Hair: Claudine Fay  Makeup: Makeup by Shirin Videographer: TLIC Media 

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Here for you, everlong

Words by Caite Hamilton | Photography by Hannah Malloy Photography

Laura Muñiz  &  Dustin Harrell

April 30, 2022, at The Market at Grelen

A native of San Juan, Puerto Rico, Laura knew weddings there tend to be more formal. But when it came time to plan her own big day, she and her fiancé Dustin wanted to make sure the event felt like them: fun and friendly (with a little formal thrown in). 

The venue helped guide the choices they made, right down to picking their wedding planner. 

“I told [them] I had a vision of a black-and-white checkered dance floor, and ’60s mod colors like fuchsia, orange, pistachio and of course black, white, and metallics,” Laura says. “The team at Grelen said, ‘You need Heather Clarke.’”

The Richmond-based planner helped the look come to life, with a retro orange TV set and matching phone booth, plus pistachio table cloths, a checkered dance floor, and a disco ball. 

“I had never seen a wedding like that,” says Laura. “All the elements came together harmoniously.” 

Photo: Hannah Malloy
Photo: Hannah Malloy
Photo: Hannah Malloy
Photo: Hannah Malloy
Photo: Hannah Malloy
Photo: Hannah Malloy
Photo: Hannah Malloy

Precious moments 

The couple’s favorite moments? Laura says it was the first look, a moment when they could take in the day—and one another—alone together. Dustin’s? “Our first kiss.”

Big plans 

Their original Japanese honeymoon was postponed thanks to COVID, so the couple re-routed, doing a tour of Utah, Wyoming, Montana, and Idaho. “In May of 2023, we are planning to go to Japan and enjoy the second part of our honeymoon,” Dustin says. 

Fancy meeting you here

The couple met in 2016 through a dating app called Happn, where you cross each other’s paths. Dustin sent Laura several heart charms, and they agreed to meet at Barnes & Noble.

Crazy hour

For the “hora loca,” a Latin wedding tradition, the couple amped up the party with blow-up farm animals, guitars, and a 6′-tall alien. “It was so random,” Laura says, “and a great addition to the fun feel of the wedding.”

The details

Event planner: Heather Clarke (The Hive Wedding Collective) Officiant: Casey Dokoupil Catering: Groovin’ Gourmets Flowers: Photosynthesis Floral Design Cake: Maliha Creations Music: Hercules Entertainment Bride’s attire: Atelier Lisa Porrata (Puerto Rico) Groom’s attire: Jos. A. Bank Groomsmen’s attire: Jos. A. Bank Rings: Brilliant Earth Invitations and stationery: Fingers in Ink Hair: Samphois Vickers Makeup: Rachel Austin Boxley Videographer: Amanda Monroe Finn Linens and décor: Rent Equip Rentals: Something Vintage Rentals

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Just like a movie

Words by Caite Hamilton | Photography by Ashley Cox

Emily Zboril  &  Brian Moy

June 25, 2022, at The Clifton

Emily and Brian knew from the start that they wanted to create a colorful experience for their guests. 

“I knew I wanted our wedding to be something we’d never seen before—a day that was completely our own,” Emily says. 

Achieving the goal started with the flowers. Maryland-based Sophie Felts Floral Design brought in live trees for the reception area, creating a kind of enchanted forest vibe. In fact, many guests said they felt they were on a movie set (“Harry Potter, to be exact,” says Emily). From there, a floral ceremony arch featured an ombre of orange, yellow, and fuchsia, colors reflected in bouquets throughout the wedding, as well as a unique seating display of custom vases with calligraphied names of each guest.

But while the colorful details contributed to guests’ enjoyment of the day, the couple looks back on a few particular moments that have nothing to do with the details at all. Like this one: 

“After we said our ‘I dos,’ our officiant asked us to turn and look at all the people who came to support us on our wedding day,” Emily says. “We felt so much love and gratitude and having a moment to acknowledge our wonderful guests was very special to us.” 

Photo: Ashley Cox
Photo: Ashley Cox
Photo: Ashley Cox
Photo: Ashley Cox
Photo: Ashley Cox
Photo: Ashley Cox
Photo: Ashley Cox

All in one

Emily and Brian wanted a venue where guests could stay on the property after the big day was over. “We knew we wouldn’t want the night to end—and we really didn’t,” says Emily. “We stayed up until like 5:30am.”

Call me

Brian and Emily met at a conference for scientists. “He told me about his dissertation work and handed me his business card!” she says. 

 The details

Event planner: Kim Newton Weddings Catering: The Clifton Rentals: Something Vintage Linens: La Tavola Invites and paper goods: Kelsey Malie Designs Calligraphy: Leah Letters Vinyl signs: Grofik Designs Flowers: Sophie Felts Cake: Liberty Baking Co. Music: Dan Goldman Entertainment Bride’s attire: The Bridal Room Shoes: Vans (embroidered by After August Co. Groom’s attire: J.Crew Groomsmen’s attire:  J.Crew Bridesmaids’ dresses: Revelry Hair: Styled for Elegance Makeup: Avenue 42 Salon Videographer: Silver Streak Media

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We’ll still have each other

Words by Caite Hamilton | Photography by Omar Zeta Photography

Ashlynn Manning Kevin Teng

August 27, 2022, at Eastwood Farm & Winery

First they decided on a cross-country move from Colorado to Virginia. Then they decided to have a baby. In the spring of 2022, Kevin proposed and they decided on a small, intimate celebration over the summer before the baby’s fall arrival. But when Ashlynn’s parents revealed they’d been saving a wedding fund for the occasion, they decided to go all in. 

“We figured we’d rather have the party we could plan impulsively in a couple of months, versus the party we might never have if we waited until after the baby came,” Ashlynn says.  

Mia Crump of Little Acorn Events helped them achieve their east-meets-west wedding dreams, with inspiration from Kevin’s native Singapore and Ashlynn’s artist heart. (“We both felt represented by bold, vibrant colors,” Ashlynn says.) 

Between the short notice, spiked airfare, and lingering COVID concerns, they ended up with a more intimate guest count after all, but it worked in their favor. 

“We had a small wedding with a big wedding lineup,” Ashlynn says. “It was abundant and glorious.”

Photo: Omar Zeta Photography
Photo: Omar Zeta Photography
Photo: Omar Zeta Photography
Photo: Omar Zeta Photography

Music-makers

The couple entered their reception to Elvis’ live intro of “Also Sprach Zarathustra” (better known as the 2001: A Space Odyssey theme). “Kevin really hammed it up with Elvis poses and a fierce air guitar solo in the dance, using one of our party favor parasols as a guitar,” says Ashlynn. “It was truly magical.” 

Setting pretty

“I had a vision of an outdoor tent, lit up at night,” says Ashlynn. “Eastwood had the prettiest outdoor tent we could find in the area, and a gorgeous outdoor setting for the ceremony.” 

Plentiful palates 

L’Étoile provided a menu to accommodate vegan and gluten-free guests. Plus, sent the couple home with leftovers that froze well and lasted until their sleepless newborn days in November.

Best dress

Kevin’s aunt is a retired fashion designer in Singapore, so while the couple was visiting, she and his mother took Ashlynn to the garment district to choose materials for her dress. She would be 28 weeks pregnant at the time of their wedding, so they decided on an empire waist and silk tulle in the skirt. 

It’s tradition

To honor Kevin’s Chinese heritage, the couple poured tea for their parents.

The details

Event planner: Mia Crump (Little Acorn Events) Officiant: Arehn McCarty of Soulprint Journeys Catering: L’Étoile Flowers: Good Vibes Garden Cake: Bowerbird Bakeshop Music: 2Hype Entertainment (who was able to offer karaoke!) Bride’s attire: Custom, with modifications by Yady’s Alterations  Groom’s attire: Bonobo’s Bridesmaids’ dress: Anthropologie Rings: Aurum Jewelers (Iceland) Hair and makeup: A More Beautiful You Videographer: Henri Saint-Jean (Piximpress) Transportation: Easy Riders Bus Company Ceremony and cocktail hour music: Beleza

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Joyful and fun

Words by Caite Hamilton | Photography by Jen Fariello

Rose Cunnion  &  Neil Henry 

May 7, 2022, at The Wool Factory

When the curtains parted and Rose saw the reception area for the first time—that modern, industrial Wool Factory space covered in bright blooms—she gasped. “It exceeded all of my expectations,” she says.

The couple had wanted it to feel and look fun. A shy person by nature, Rose says it was important to the both of them that wedding be as much about “family and friends being together and having a good time” as it was about the couple themselves. 

Mission accomplished: Neil’s family flew in from Ireland and his brother, Shane, brought the house down with his best man’s speech. Of particular importance was the memories they were able to make with Neil’s dad, who has since passed. 

“It gave us an amazing memory to have him there and remember how much he loved it,” Rose says. 

Photo: Jen Fariello
Photo: Jen Fariello
Photo: Jen Fariello
Photo: Jen Fariello
Photo: Jen Fariello
Photo: Jen Fariello

Modern elegance

Rose says they chose The Wool Factory for a few reasons: “Convenient to downtown. Elegant without being stuffy. A gorgeous natural setting of the Rivanna River. Known for great food!” 

Ode to C’ville

Though the couple has been living in Durham, North Carolina, for eight years, they wanted to hold their wedding in Charlottesville as a nod to how they met—as undergrads at UVA in 2008.

The details

Event planner: Wilson Keller (Evoke Design and Creative) Officiant: Vinny Ringrose Catering: The Wool Factory Flowers: Mallory Joyce Design Cake: The Wool Factory (by Rachel De Jong of Cou Cou Rachou) Music: DJ Stoundyn Bride’s attire: Alexandra Grecco from Gilded Bridal, alterations by Cordella Bridal  Shoes: Loeffler Randall Jewelry: Jennifer Behr Groom’s attire: Men’s Wearhouse Groomsmen’s attire: Men’s Wearhouse Bridesmaids’ dresses: Park & Fifth Co Rings: Melanie Casey (bride), Hamilton Hill (groom) Hair and makeup: Avenue 42 Salon  Invitations: Steph B. & Co

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Cue the confetti

The practice of throwing grains at the newly married is an old one—from the ancient Romans to the Celts. A symbol of prosperity, fertility, and growth, guests of the celebration would toss rice as a way of wishing the happy couple luck beyond their wedding day. Except…ouch? We can’t imagine anything less romantic than being pelted with uncooked kernels at our happiest moment. Instead, we’re in favor of these four modern-day twists on the tradition, from feathery slips of paper to a straight-up bubble bath. —Caite Hamilton

Confetti

Whether it’s popped out of a cannon or just stored in a cute bag until it’s go-time, confetti is an easy option, and fully customizable to your color palette. Just be sure to use biodegradable paper—your love may be forever, but Earth certainly isn’t. 

Photo: Hannah Malloy

Ribbon wands

Subtle and celebratory, ribbon wands are like pom-poms, but less aggressive. They say, “2, 4, 6, 8, we wish you luck with your new mate!” but in an understated, classy way. We especially like the elegant choice one couple made (wedding white!), but could see these going glam in gold, or whimsical in a shimmery iridescent. 

Flower petals

Your florist will be able to hold back a few blooms from your bouquets for this one. Pre-fill sachets or, like this couple, a rolled piece of your song’s sheet music. Hot tip: Check with your venue before committing to this idea; some don’t like leaving petals on the ground to get slippery or stain. 

Bubbles

You’ve walked down the aisle, you’ve said your “I do,” you’re finally married. Now the fun begins, and nothing says fun like bubbles. Playful and silly, they float through the air (maybe they’re even scented? Are we crazy?) then POP! right on your nose. Time to get this party started.

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The language of flowers

There’s so much to consider when it comes to your bouquet for the big day—color and kind, style and season. Not to mention the blooms you choose can be symbols, telling stories through floriography, or the language of flowers. Good thing there are experts who can keep you from going too far afield. We asked floral designers at Liliharp Flowers, Hedge Fine Blooms, and Tourterelle Floral Design to share their favorite flowers to feature as focal points. These are their top picks.  

Heirloom tulip

With a rainbow of hues, these perky posies announce the arrival of spring. Originating in Central Asia, the tulip signifies eternal love in Persian mythology and, with its inclusion in your bouquet, that meaning still stands today. 

Peony

These late spring baubles burst in bunches ranging from coral to crimson. The peony’s abundant blossoms portray prosperity, symbolizing a happy life and a happy marriage. The plush petals make a beautiful bouquet accompanied by larkspur, nigella, and snapdragons. 

Ranunculus

In a plentiful palette from light to bright, this parade of paper-thin petals begins its bloom in spring. The romantic ranunculus represents radiance—just as you do on your special day.   

Sweet pea

It’s a French custom to give this fragrant flower, named by Romantic poet John Keats, to a bride on her wedding day as a symbol of gratitude and pleasure. In a bouquet, the delicate clusters of ruffled resplendence show off in solids, stripes, and bicolor combinations. 

Garden rose

The soft and supple symbol of love comes alive in just about every shade under the summer sun. Different from modern roses, these fragrant florets have lush layers with a tender, dreamy feel.