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Managing mental health during COVID

For some people, quarantine has given them the opportunity to spend more time with their family, catch up on their favorite TV shows, or finally learn how to bake bread, among other things. But for those struggling with anxiety and depression, this time may be very difficult, especially if they live alone.

To learn more about protecting our mental health during the ongoing pandemic, we spoke with Elizabeth Irvin, a licensed clinical social worker and executive director at The Women’s Initiative, which offers free and low-cost (now virtual) counseling to women.

C-VILLE: How may the pandemic be affecting people who struggle with anxiety and depression?

Elizabeth Irvin: The virus and our stay-at-home order are triggering fear and uncertainty for everyone. In different ways, that is showing up for people who had depression and anxiety before this all got started. Their symptoms are continuing and sometimes worsening, but we’re also seeing incredible resilience, with many people really putting in the extra effort to reach out and get the care that they need.

The other additional impacts on people with depression and anxiety are what’s facing so many people, including issues with job security, money, and childcare, as well as feelings of isolation and disconnection from others. So as those issues worsen during this time period, it’s that much more important for people with underlying conditions to take even more steps for their self-care and well-being.

What can people struggling with mental wellness do to stay healthy at home?

It’s so important to get the facts about the virus from reliable sources, and make sure to also take media breaks. Avoid…too much negative content, because it really increases your anxiety. Taking the healthy actions that we all can, like good hand-washing, social distancing, and having a plan if someone gets sick—that’s anxiety-reducing too.

I also recommend keeping a schedule and making time to do activities that you enjoy…If the despair or depression is really starting to settle in, you may not have any interest in doing these things. However, it’s really important to start activities often, even without a lot of motivation to them, because they themselves help you feel better.

Taking time to create calm in your day…and taking care of your body are very important. The studies on exercise are clear, both for reduction of anxiety and depression, as well as improved sleep. They also are beginning to show results of fighting the virus. You can do that by running in place in a room and doing jumping jacks—things that don’t even require you to go outside.

Lastly, there’s staying connected. We are physically distancing, but we can make scheduled times to call and reach out to friends and family through FaceTime, Zoom, or however you can. Checking in on a neighbor, from a safe distance, is just as important. We don’t want people to feel acute isolation during this time.

But if you’re trying these things at home…and your symptoms are worsening, please call and reach out for professional help.

What can those who aren’t struggling with
mental wellness do to support their friends and family who are?

Regular check-ins, in the way the person would prefer you to do them. That could mean a text, a brief phone call, or a scheduled longer phone call once a week…You can also reach out for help from a professional yourself to know at what point somebody might need more support.

Overall, do what you can to help and support that person, and recognize you also need to then take care of yourself. Don’t forget your own self-care as you’re supporting others.

For more information on how to access The Women’s Initiative’s free call-in clinic, go to thewomensinitiative.org

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Creigh Deeds sues state for son’s wrongful death

The day after news broke about the $6 million wrongful death lawsuit he’d filed in his son’s 2013 death, Virginia state Senator Creigh Deeds refused to discuss the suit, but says the decision to file “was always a consideration. Since the beginning of the republic, the legal system has been in place to make changes and protect its citizens.”

And he seemed amused that news of the suit, which was filed November 19 in Bath County, was first broken by the Rockbridge Advocate and only made state news January 5. Anyone paying attention, suggested Deeds, would have known he had two years to file a civil suit.

November 19 was the second anniversary of the day Gus Deeds, 24, stabbed his father 13 times and killed himself after being turned away from the Rockbridge Area Community Services Board when its evaluator, Michael Gentry, said he couldn’t find a hospital bed for Gus and he no longer could be held on an emergency custody order.

Both the board and Gentry are named in the suit, as is the Commonwealth of Virginia, which the lawsuit contends was aware of serious shortcomings in its emergency services for people in mental health crises from a 2012 study following the Virginia Tech shootings.

According to the suit, Gus had “struggled with serious mental health issues” and had made previous suicide attempts. Deeds had promised his son he would not force him to be hospitalized again, but on November 18, 2013, because of Gus’ “recent and acute behavior,” his father determined he had to be hospitalized.

Deeds obtained an emergency custody order, and at 12:26pm Gus was taken to Bath County Hospital, the suit says. Gentry arrived at the hospital at 3:10pm to evaluate Gus and concluded he met the criteria for hospitalization.

Gentry claimed he contacted 10 facilities and none had beds, according to the suit, which alleges phone records show he only contacted seven and that two of the hospitals he said he contacted had beds that day.

An hour before the emergency custody order expired, Gus’ mother, Pamela Miller Mayhew, called Gentry and begged him not to release Gus because he was in “a very bad place” and would kill his father and himself, the suit says.

“Gentry responded that Gus was a responsible adult,” that he had missed his appointments with the community service board and that if he did kill Deeds, “Gus would be institutionalized for a very long time,” the suit alleges.

“Virginia’s mental health care system failed my son, Gus,” says Deeds in a statement. “I am committed that my son’s needless death shall not be in vain, and that no other Virginia family suffer this tragedy.”