Poly want a lover?
Thank you for putting out the recent survey on sexual relationships. I took the survey and was amused, mildly surprised and disappointed by the strictly monogamous angle at which it was written.
There are many people in the world (and certainly lots in Central Virginia) who practice polyamory as an alternative to unfulfilling monogamous relationships. Committed polyamory involves open and honest dialogue between all partners and encourages us to process our issues with jealousy, insecurity, possessiveness and envy. For me, being a married polyamorous woman offers me the gift of exploring and initiating new friendships (whether they become sexual or not) that always offer me new insights into both my world and myself the way that the first or primary relationship initially did. Once my partners and I choose to realize that the glow of a new relationship does not need to extinguish the steady fire of the old, the fear of the repercussions of ”cheating” go away.
By choosing poly over mono I also relieve the pressure on other lovers to “be my everything.” I can enjoy friendships with people who offer different outlooks, styles and attractions and not feel upset that my spouse is lacking in something, when others can offer me what I seek. The only “downside” (and I don’t really consider it as such) is the time and energy commitment involved in keeping multiple romantic attachments strong and healthy. For people already feeling society’s time constraints, the commitment to check in and literally manage your romances can be an extra burden.
Again, thank you for your efforts at compiling the data. It is my hope that more in my community will also speak out to ask for recognition of a fantastic way of loving and living.
Sienna Fennell
Alemarle County
Clear the air
As an employee of Clear Channel Charlottesville and a reader of C-VILLE Weekly, I must say that I am highly disappointed in your article “War makes for strange bedfellows” [InReview/Media, April 8]. While you were incorrect in reporting that Clear Channel nationwide pulled the Dixie Chicks off our playlists, incorrect in quoting some of our DJs’ on-air comments and guilty of perpetuating the myth that Clear Channel Corporate makes all the decisions for our locally managed radio stations, it is not your poorly attempted attack on us that bothers me. What is disturbing to me, and should be to the rest of your readers, is that you did not do your research.
You reported false information as if it were the honest truth because you were too lazy to make a phone call. A reader of publications such as yours, and other news sources, relies on you to do your homework so that what he or she is reading is accurate. The reader depends on you to give him or her good, solid information. Unfortunately, the bulk of the information in the previously mentioned article is false, and uninvestigated. Sadly, quite a few of your readers will take you at your word.
From now on, I will not believe anything you print until I find it out for myself. After doing some research of my own, I did find that, of the Clear Channel Charlottesville employees polled, they wish that there were no need for war, and they support our men and women who fought for our freedoms so that people like you can write inaccurate articles and not be tortured because of it.
Angie Logan
Charlottesville