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Hello, two! Saying goodbye to my only child

Before the birth of my second child in December, I was worried of the impact it would have on my firstborn, June, now 3. I was afraid she wouldn’t do well with a new baby in the house. Up until that point, June had been the center of everything—the object of all our love, devotion, and affection. A second child would alter the dynamic. It had to. I was afraid I would have less time, and by extension maybe even less love, for June. She’d become the generalized “big sis.”

Our second child, Kathryn Bea, was born December 13, and within the first few months of being a mom of two, I realized I had been projecting. June has been fine with the transition. More than fine. She adores her little sister (though I like to think it’s because we went out of our way to prep her for the change, see the sidebar below). She loves to hold her, kiss her, play with her, and feed her. I was the one with the hang-ups. I was the one who had a hard time letting go of June’s only child star status. It sounds petty, but there’s something so special, untarnished, and undistracted about being able to pour all your energy and love into one child. Two fractures the equation. Two requires more focus and compartmentalization. Or so I thought.

When in reality, my heart just opened bigger than I thought possible. I love seeing the differences between June and Katie (Katie is a little more relaxed than June was at this age, but that also could be because I’m more relaxed). I love the similarities even more (they look identical, those two, and both love, love, love to be swaddled).

I love how having two kids makes me feel more enmeshed in my family life than ever before, which is equally wonderful and frustrating. When you just have one child, you can still look forward to some down-time, some “me” time on the weekends by leaving your child for a bit with your spouse. With two kids, that luxury goes out the window, particularly for moms—at least at this stage when children are very young. Now on weekends, I typically have both girls with me at all times with maybe an hour or two to go for a quick jog or run an errand by myself. The effect of this is that I feel more like a Mom and less like “Jessie” than ever. The upside is that it’s brought my husband Jake and me closer together as we accept we have to be there for one another like never before. Our roles as “Mom and Dad” come into greater relief as our individuality further slips away; the roots deepen.

As for June and Katie, they each gain a friend and ally—a comrade to buffer the omnipresence of Mom and Dad. It’s a dynamic an only child never gets to experience. With a little luck, their relationship will only grow and deepen, just like their Mom and Dads’.

 

Make room for baby

Need some tips for preparing your toddler for a sibling? Start here.

Get out the toddler’s photo album and replay events of her babyhood: “Mom is going to be spending a lot of time feeding your new sibling, just like I did with you.”

Ask her opinion when shopping for baby stuff—what color socks she thinks her new sibling might like, whether to get her this or that plushy toy, etc.

Play up all the great things that come from being a big sister: It’s a big responsibility and you get to teach your new sibling all kinds of cool new stuff, like how to say the alphabet, how to build blocks, how to eat applesauce!

Stock up on books and videos to help her prepare. June became obsessed with the Dora the Explorer “Big Sister Dora” DVD that we checked out from the library. She asked to watch it every day. It put a really happy, positive spin on all the great things that come from being a big sister.

To give the older sibling a feeling of special privileges, ask her to select which of her toys the new baby can play with and which are for big girls only.

Upon their first meeting, have the baby present the toddler with a gift—a balloon, a book, a treat. It doesn’t have to be extravagant.

When the baby comes along, give the toddler some baby responsibilities: fetching diapers, assisting with wipes, throwing dirty diapers in the trash. June loves this one. (We both do!)—J.K. 

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Small talk: From the mouths of babes, answers to some of life’s tougher questions

Kids think they have all the answers. And maybe they do. We put a few to the test, sending out a Q&A to youngsters age 5 to 16.

Most of our participants were born after the millenium. They don’t remember using payphones. They’ll never know the frustration of dial-up Internet. But there’s a lot of wisdom to glean from their young minds, as our questionnaire proves.

We asked everything from the serious (what would you do if you were president?) to the silly (if you could be a sound, what would you be?) and were surprised by many of the answers. It’s true: Kids really do say the darndest things.

Photos by Cramer Photo

Photo: Cramer Photo
Boy wonder

Erik Rebhorn

Age: 5

Attends: Cale Elementary School

Likes: TV, candy, Star Wars.

Dislikes: His sister’s puppy dog face.

What would you do if you were president? Make Leo [his friend from daycare] the mayor even though no one else in kindergarten knows him.

What advice would you give your parents? Be the guards of me and do nice things to me.

If you grew up to be famous, what would you want to be famous for? Looking up into space.

At what age is a person an adult? What makes you think so? 20, because the oldest teenager is 19.

What’s the hardest thing about being a kid? Moms and dads get to do a lot of things that kids don’t, like being the boss of a conference.

What do you think life will be like in five years? I can be the same size as my sister even though she is three years older than me and will be 13.

How do you know if you’re in love? When I’m with my mom.

What do you know how to do that you can teach to others? Reading.

If you could be a sound, what would you be? A rifle gun blasting.

If you could choose a new name for yourself, what would it be? I like my name.

If you could invent something that would make life easier for people, what would you invent? Something that makes parents be kids so we could do whatever we want.

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Kid’s best friend: Flocks of love

Having worked toward becoming a veterinarian since she was 3, when she started pulling lambs, 10-year-old Sadie Wentz already has a head start on some of her less-industrious peers. She’s the proud owner of 13 Suffolk-Hampshire Cross sheep, a 900-pound steer, and two dogs, and is responsible for everything from delivering baby lambs to treating sick animals (sometimes in the middle of the night!) at the family’s Rapidan farm.

Her efforts have earned her some awards, too. In last year’s 4H competition, she won Outstanding Junior Exhibitor, Second Overall Novice Showman, and she competed for a Grand Champion title after winning her class with one of
her lambs.

But it’s not about competitions. Said her dad, Brian, “It’s about the animals and the bond they share—the friendships, the experience.” And, it sounds like, it’s about getting a head start on a promising future. Owning two lambs has taught her about bookkeeping, buying feed and supplies, and general money management.

“Her sheep flock is how she’ll fund her education,” Brian said. Sadie’s already started looking at colleges. Virginia Tech and North Carolina are currently in the running.

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Augusta County Offers Mountain Views, Outdoor Activities, Great Arts

Augusta is the second largest county in Virginia and is bordered by mountains on both the east and the west. Not surprisingly, it is known for its spectacular and panoramic mountain views. However it also offers many of the conveniences of city life, along with a rich history beginning with the early colonists who started arriving in 1720. The County figured in the Revolutionary War when Staunton served briefly as the state capitol, played a role in the Civil War and continues to be prominent in modern times. Along with many opportunities for outdoor activities, Augusta is also known for its arts scene featuring music of all varieties, and both professional and community theater.

Life in the Shenandoah Valley moves at a bit of a slower pace than on the other side of the Blue Ridge, although it doesn’t lack opportunities for those who want to pursue them. And of course Charlottesville and UVA are just 30 minutes away to the east and Richmond an hour’s drive beyond that. Alternatively you can head north to DC and beyond. The Valley is a genuine crossroads with easy access to the rest of the state.

Home buyers hunting for good deals will find them in Augusta where there is much more house and lot available for the money than can be purchased in Charlottesville or Albemarle. As a result, you will find many first time buyers living in the Valley, along with empty nesters seeking a quieter lifestyle where they can choose from many cultural activities. And like other parts of our region, the real estate market is picking up as people take advantage of favorable prices and continuing low interest rates to buy homes they couldn’t have imagined they could afford just a few years ago.

History and Culture
Once part of Orange County, Augusta became its own entity in 1738. A courthouse was built at the county seat of Staunton in 1745 where records have been kept continuously since then. In 1854 the building of a railroad linking these two major centers enhanced the flow of goods from Staunton to Richmond. The railroad also brought Staunton into the Civil War when it served the Confederate Army as a supply center.

Augusta County is known for being the home of Cyrus McCormick, who brought a revolution to farming when he invented the reaper at his home in Steele’s Tavern. It is also recognized as the birthplace of Woodrow Wilson who was born in Staunton, which today serves as the location of his Presidential Library and Museum.

Another Augusta historical attraction is the Frontier Culture Museum that depicts the life of colonists who came to this country in the 1600s and 1700s. The museum tells the story of four different groups who arrived from England, Germany, Ireland and Africa. Two separate areas depict life in both the homelands of these settlers and in their new homes in the Shenandoah Valley.
While the history of this area is a big draw, another attraction is the local arts community, said Ed Davis with Real Estate Plus. Davis is not native to this area but located here 28 years ago. “Now I wouldn’t be anywhere else,” he said.

The Blackfriars Playhouse in Staunton, the one and only re-creation of Shakespeare’s original indoor theater, is one of many reasons for his enthusiasm. “It is almost always sold out,” he said. “If you want to go you need to plan ahead.” There are also a variety of music venues including country, blue grass and classical, plus galleries and outlets for visual arts.
A concert series in Gypsy Hill Park, also in Staunton, is a popular way to enjoy summer evenings and features, on different nights, Band Concerts with the Stonewall Brigade Band, Gospel Music, Blue Grass and Jazz.

Augusta’s Other Amenities
The scenery, and especially the mountain views, is among Augusta’s biggest attractions, said Betty Aguilar with Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate III. Davis agrees, reflecting that unlike living in a beach community where you can only admire the water by looking in one direction, the mountains are panoramic and you can enjoy them from anywhere in the area and see them in all directions.

Another big plus of living in Augusta is that it is self-contained. All of the shopping is there like Kohl’s, Target, Lowes and Home Depot and there are now theaters in both Staunton and Waynesboro. There are also lots of good restaurants to choose from after enjoying some of Augusta’s many cultural events, Aguilar said.

Leah Thomas, Vice President of Marketing and Sales with Countryside Service Company in Staunton, also described what she called “lots of shopping and restaurants.” In addition, however, she noted that Charlottesville is only a short distance away for those who want even more options to choose from.

For people who like outdoor activities, Augusta County also provides many options for outdoor activities such as golfing, walking, hiking, fishing, hunting, canoeing or camping. In 2010 Outdoor Life magazine ranked Waynesboro as the top town in Virginia for hunting and fishing

Augusta’s Real Estate Market
A big plus for Augusta is the home prices. You will find “lots more house for the money,” Aguilar said, and “taxes are lower here as well.” Buyers looking for a deal can find older homes in the $150,000 range, and fixer uppers are available for even less, she said.

Aguilar moved to the Valley nine years ago. Back then a buyer would pay $100,000 more for a 3 bedroom 1 and 1/2 bath home in Charlottesville compared to Augusta, she explained. Today the difference is less but still substantial at $50,000.

Many people have jobs in Charlottesville and commute from Waynesboro and other Augusta County locations traveling the interstate, which is fast and convenient, or choosing Route 250. Some people express concern about the fog on the mountain, Aguilar said, but she added that there are only 30 days in a typical year where fog is an issue.

There are positive signs in the real estate market in Augusta as there are elsewhere in our region. Davis said that the inventory is less than it was a year ago and there are fewer bank owned homes on the market than there once were.

He also referenced the much lower prices stating that the median for the area is just $151,500, a lot less than in Charlottesville/Albemarle. “It is in the $150,000 to $200,000 price range where most of the action is,” he said. However, he added that the higher end homes are also moving, just more slowly than the others. Days on the market are also less than they were a year ago. These statistics plus the continuing low interest rates are all “positive signs for the coming year,” Davis said.

Thomas described a “surge in our sales,” last year. Her company had 100 new home starts in 2013 resulting in their largest growth in revenue ever and “we are on target to have another great year in 2014,” she said. Her company does building and offers creative financing options, including special programs for people who are self employed or who have less than stellar credit. They also do rent-to-own programs, and even do trades. Last year they did 10 such transactions that involved her company buying a home from a family who then simultaneously purchased one of her company’s new homes.

Augusta is Attractive to Many Different Buyers
With its lower prices, Augusta definitely has a lot to offer first time buyers. “Lots of younger people working in Charlottesville choose Augusta,” Aguilar said. She explained that for many of them their only choice would be a condo if they bought in Charlottesville. When they move to Augusta the commute is still reasonable and they can live in a house with a yard in a community such as Waynesboro or Lyndhurst.

Retirees also like this area. In fact Davis, who is active in the local Rotary, described Augusta as a “Mecca for retirees,” who like the lifestyle and the small town atmosphere available in Staunton and Waynesboro. Many retirees also appreciate what the area has to offer in the way of the arts.

People are moving to Augusta from all over. Many of the first timers are local as are some of those looking to downsize, Thomas said. “We also get our share of people moving from Charlottesville,” she added. Of course, many of them find the larger homes and bigger lots attractive compared to what is available elsewhere.

Lots of people move here from the north, Davis explained. However, he said there are a surprising number who relocate from Florida because they like living in a place that has four seasons. “They see it as a mid-point as far as climate goes,” he said.

Augusta also has much to offer in the way of jobs, Aguilar said. She cited Hershey and Hollister as two of the biggest, but McQuay International, Wal-Mart and Little Debbie are also prominent there as are many others. Of course, this kind of economic activity brings many people to the area.

The job strength of the Augusta economy was recognized in 2011 when Site Selection magazine ranked it in the top 20 “micropolitan areas.” A micropolitan area is a US Census designation that describes urbanized areas around smaller communities such as Staunton and Waynesboro. The rankings are based on job creation and capital investment. According to Virginiabusiness.com just a few of the local businesses which contributed to this impressive ranking included, Ntelos, Innovative Refrigeration Systems and Fisher Auto Parts all of which had enjoyed significant expansions and created many new jobs that year.

Augusta Lifestyle
All of the agents had positive things to say about the Augusta lifestyle. Aguilar explained that there are a lot of activities and plenty to do, but it is also a lot quieter than in Charlottesville.

In terms of quality of life, Staunton has received a significant amount of recognition in the last several years. In 2012 it was rated number 10 of America’s 20 top small towns by the Smithsonian Magazine, Davis said. The article cites Staunton’s creation of the “city-manager government model,” which made possible the growth of all of its cultural opportunities of which the Blackfriars Playhouse is just one of many.

In addition, this year, Fodder’s Travel Blog selected Staunton’s Beverley Street as one the best main streets in America.

“Many people are not aware that Waynesboro is also experiencing a lot of growth,” Thomas said. The shopping and the new theaters are a big plus, and the market as a whole is doing well she continued.

While all of Augusta’s attributes are important, what people really enjoy about living here, Davis said, is the small town community atmosphere where everyone feels at home.

Celeste Smucker is a writer, blogger and author. She lives near Charlottesville.

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Why You Need a Good Home Inspector

If you’ve ever bought a house, you know how important it is to obtain a good inspection prior to closing. Even the smallest home is a complex structure with many parts that must work together to assure your comfort and safety, and most buyers have limited knowledge of how these systems operate.  For that reason, an inspection is an essential part of the home buying process.  In fact, just about every purchase contract is subject to an inspection, which means you have the right to pay an inspector of your choice to evaluate all aspects of the home’s visible construction elements and systems.
Professional Inspectors
What makes someone a professional inspector?  A qualified inspector has a background in the industry, explained Melody Wright with Structure Examinations, a Charlottesville area home inspection company.  Her husband, Tim, has lots of “hands on experience,” as he was a professional contractor for years before starting his home inspection business in 1998.
“A good inspector recognizes that codes and methods are always changing,” Wright said.  She gave the example of solar and geothermal technologies, both of which have become popular in recent years.  A qualified inspector must stay on top of what is current in the way of technology. He or she must also understand the building code and how it applies to homes of different ages and be able to recognize potential hazards. She referenced possible wiring hazards due to an inexperienced person’s do it yourself project that could cause over-heating if not caught.
All of this requires the inspector to view parts of the house where most people wouldn’t want to go, she added.  Some good examples are attics, roofs or crawl spaces.  A home can look great to buyers, inexperienced in construction, and still have looming issues due to faulty roofing or improper run-off that causes foundation problems due to poor drainage.
While these kinds of home inspections are almost always conducted on resale homes, Wright explained they are becoming more common for people buying new construction.  This often involves two to three inspections at different stages of the building process.  Even though the county conducts mandatory inspections to assure the home is being built to code, they may not be as thorough as your own inspector, Wright explained.  And while the builder also oversees the work, he or she can’t be on site continuously and may miss something.  Having your own inspector is a way to assure peace of mind about your new home.
Negotiating the Repairs
If the inspector finds a problem, your agent will work with the seller’s agent to help both parties come to agreement about how to resolve the issue before closing.  Usually this involves the seller agreeing to make repairs and provide you with proof a qualified contractor complete them in a timely manner.  As a professional familiar with this process, your agent can help successfully resolve most issues that arise so that you can move on to closing successfully. On those rare occasions when the negotiation fails, you have the right to pull out of the contract.
If you are a seller who wants to avoid a sticky negotiation process, you might want to consider having your home pre-inspected.  That way if the inspector finds something major, you can fix it before your home goes under contract.  The buyers will almost certainly conduct their own inspection, but you can rest easier knowing they aren’t likely to find something that will derail the process.  Also, when you uncover problems up front, you are not under pressure to do quick repairs in order to meet an arbitrary deadline.  Instead you can take your time soliciting bids from several reliable contractors saving money and getting a better repair in the process.
How to Find a Good Inspector
When looking for an inspector, start by asking your agent for a referral.  Most REALTORS® have years of experience and can give you a list of several of the best inspectors for you to choose from.    Wright suggests you call and ask questions about the inspector’s certification and training as well as how long they’ve been in the business.
Limits of the Inspection
It’s important to realize that an inspector is only liable for what they can see.  While they can test for wiring or plumbing problems, they can’t for example, see behind walls to determine if there are problems there.
In addition, while your home inspector can tell you about visible damage due to insects, they are not termite inspectors.  That is a separate inspection carried out by a pest control professional and paid for by the seller.  Similarly, if you are buying a home in a rural area, in most cases your seller is required to provide the results of an inspection of the well and septic, also at their expense.
Celeste Smucker is a writer, blogger and author.  She lives near Charlottesville.
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Real Estate News, Week of February 20

CAAR Member Kelly Ceppa Honored with Good Neighbor Award

Charlottesville Area Association of REALTORS® (CAAR), the voice of real estate in the Central Virginia region, has announced Kelly Ceppa as a Good Neighbor Award recipient. This recognition program highlights local REALTORS® who dedicate significant time and interest to projects that make a lasting impact on our communities.

“Kelly is passionate about many causes, and we deeply appreciate her work to bring smiles to children’s faces during the holidays,” Anita Dunbar, CAAR president-elect and associate broker at Montague Miller & Company, said.

Ceppa’s volunteer service on a project team at CAAR has expanded into a seven-year commitment to the Toy Lift event benefitting the Kids Lift Foundation. Challenged with helping 450 more children and lower donations in 2013, Ceppa was determined to recruit past and current REALTORS® at her firm – as well as clients – to make the event a success.

She began by operating an early toy drop-off location at the Nest office in mid-November and organizing a firm-wide shopping event to purchase toys. Ceppa put in more than 25 hours during the weekend of Toy Lift to ensure that the drop-off and distribution centers were staffed.

“We are very glad to see Kelly get recognition for her hard work with the Toy Lift,” Charlie Hall, administrator of the toy lift, said. “Every donation counts in bringing holiday spirit to local children, and Kelly certainly took that mission to heart.”

Ceppa has been a CAAR member since 2002 and serves on a variety of association working groups each year. A $100 donation was made to Toy Lift in her name.

About CAAR –
The Charlottesville Area Association of REALTORS® (CAAR) represents more than 1,000 real estate professionals in Charlottesville and Albemarle and the surrounding areas of Greene, Fluvanna, Nelson, Louisa counties. For more information on CAAR, pick up a copy of the CAAR Real Estate Weekly, visit www.caar.com, or contact your REALTOR.

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More ranch, please: A house grows inside its old footprint

It was a familiar Charlottesville story. The house, a 1960s ranch, boasted a great location near Downtown, but its outdated floor plan needed to be modernized. “It was a lot of square footage but didn’t seem like it when you walked in,” said Scott Abbott, owner of Abbott & Co. General Contractors. “It was your conventional cut-up plan with dedicated dining and a narrow weird kitchen.”

The view from the kitchen reveals the new ceiling, which is 12' high at the ridge, and custom cabinetry. Photo: Christian Hommel
The view from the kitchen reveals the new ceiling, which is 12′ high at the ridge, and custom cabinetry. Photo: Christian Hommel

Abbott’s solution was to not only remove walls—making the separate living, dining, and kitchen areas into one large great room, à la contemporary taste—but to raise the ceilings. Taking off half the house’s roof and installing a new scissor truss system allowed him to create tall, sloped ceilings, 12′ at the highest point. “It made the room look a lot bigger,” he said.

In the new kitchen, the centerpiece is a 14′-long, two-level bar. Its lower countertop, a workspace, is granite, while the upper section is walnut. “It’s a warmer feel,” said Abbott. “This made it wide enough for overflow space for the dining area.”

A look at the room before the renovation.
A look at the room before the renovation.

Custom cabinets in white, with black granite countertops, provide a clean, just-modern-enough look. New wooden floors unify the great room.

Though this was a sweeping renovation, signs of the house’s original character remain.“We like to take some of the best of a house and keep it,” said Abbott. In this case, the original fireplace, with a white brick surround, lends a midcentury vibe to the living room. A similar philosophy is at work in the fact that although the team replaced windows, they didn’t change their placement—meaning the house’s exterior look stayed very similar.

As a final touch, Abbott and his team turned the attached garage into a media room. It’s one more way to bring a city home into the new century.

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The Gilded Thimble

Specialty:The Gilded Thimble specializes in Bridal gown alterations and makes dreams come true with their renowned custom fit. Their passion for beautiful design converges with perfectionism. Because of the marriage of art and skill, dreams are realized in this downtown loft studio every day. Browse through their galleries, ask your friends and wedding industry professionals, or make an appointment to stop in and see for yourself. We look forward to working with you! Carissa Suter is the owner and seamstress of The Gilded Thimble, inc. She attended Hollins University In Roanoke Virginia, has been sewing for almost 20 years,and finds her niche in the bridal industry. She is an outgoing, creative soul who infuses her work with passion and laughter. Expect spontaneous interaction as she crafts your gown to your form. Her feelings about sewing? This is about detail. This is crucial. But this is also fun!

Web Site : www.thegildedthimble.com
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Sam Hill Entertainment

Specialty: Live music for weddings, private events and more!

Phone: 434-977-6665

Address: 200 East Garrett St., Suite I, Charlottesville, VA, 22902.

Web Site: www.SamHillBands.com

Email: info@samhillbands.com

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Aimee Susanah Photography

Specialty: With a Bachelor of Fine Arts in Photography, Aimee uses that training and over 10 years experience in her approach to wedding photography. She documents the day in a photojournalistic style rather than “posed” shots. Her specialty is bringing a sensitive feminine eye, with an edge, to her work. Voted Best of Weddings 2012 by The Knot. Ask about her Photo Booth.

Phone: 434-989-4664

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